I remember my first breakup. Of course, it was also my first relationship, so all the emotions were already magnified times ten. But the first breakup hit me like a bus roaring down the street at 50 mph. I felt flattened, almost literally.
At that time, I would have done anything to stop the pain and restore things to the way they were. Unfortunately, back in that day there were no articles or books on “how to get your ex back,” so I was pretty much flying by the seat of my pants.
Unfortunately, we didn’t get back together.
Luckily, that doesn’t have to be your fate.
It Happens to Almost Everyone
Since relationships are an ultimate fact of human existence, breakups (unfortunately) are just as much a fact of life. Most people average nearly two major breakups over a lifespan. As is obvious to you now, these breakups can be devastating, only rivaled by the passing of a loved one. And in a sense, it is very much like a death – a death of a relationship, not a person, but a death nonetheless.
And everyone who has gone through a breakup asks the dreaded question, “how do I get my ex back? What can I do?” Unfortunately, for most of those people, these questions go unanswered, as there was little information on how to reverse this process for the first, what, millenia of human existence?
Imagine the cave man or woman experiencing their first breakup. Did they have Google or the Internet to turn to? No. So count yourself lucky on that end, at least. ;)
Don’t Give Up
Most, if not all, of your friends and family will tell you that it’s time to “move on.” This is unfortunately the “common wisdom” bandied about nowadays, wisdom which sounds helpful but which sometimes can be harmful.
The fact of the matter is that some relationships breakup for dumb reasons, or at least reasons that can be fixed and changed so that the relationship can be healthy.
“Moving on,” in this case, is thus much like giving up.
What To Do
Armed with the right knowledge and approach, you can put your relationship back together.
Understanding human psychology in general, and the specific dynamics and quirks of your relationship in particular, can all help you put the relationship back together.
This isn’t Humpty Dumpty here! All the King’s horses and all the King’s men couldn’t put him back together again, but with the right knowledge and approach, you can put your relationship back where it belongs. You can stop asking “how to get your ex back” and start asking “so how do we move on from here?”
And believe me, it’s a great feeling!
Let’s Start Now
The key now is to get started. Read about this topic and find out what other’s have done in your circumstances. Think and discuss your strategy with friends.
Through it all, remember that you can do whatever you put your mind to…and that includes bringing back what may seem to be lost. Nothing is lost as long as we know where to look.