OK, full disclosure: I’m a dude. That means that I don’t know much about how you’re feeling, and I don’t know exactly what you are going through as the ex girlfriend.
I do know, however, what it feels like to be on the other side of this issue – I know what it’s like to be the guy in this situation!
Of course, I’ve gone through my share of breakups myself…but what matters here for you is what works in order for you to learn how to get your ex boyfriend back when he has a new girlfriend.
This comes from my personal experience and knowledge, so your mileage may vary.
Start at the Beginning
The first thing we need to do is reassess why the breakup happened in the first place. What are the reasons why you split? Is it something that happened on the spur of the moment, or is it the result of something that has been happening over a long time period?
The key is to begin thinking about how to reverse or change those trends that led to the breakup. Of course, this is useful info for you once you re-engage your ex boyfriend’s interests…but how do you get your ex boyfriend to notice you when he’s already together with a new girl?
There is Good News…
The issue here is not as serious as you think. I’m sure you’re aware of the phenomenon of “the rebound relationship.” For many guys, the rebound relationship serves two purposes.
One, it gets his mind off you.
Two, it tries to make you jealous so that you will “want” him back.
Whether or not this strategy is working on you is irrelevant. (Though I’d venture that it is working at least a bit given that you’re here.) What matters is that we see his new relationship not as something necessarily permanent or serious, but…
As something that’s PART of the breakup in progress. This means this process can be reversed and the relationship mended, as long as you know what cards to play.
…But Tread Carefully!
Even though there is good news, you still need to be careful about how you approach this potentially explosive situation. If you make the wrong move and go too aggressive, you might detonate the whole relationship, and it’ll never be recovered.
That means it’s time to learn and get prepared.
What I recommend is learning all there is to know about how to get your ex boyfriend back when he has a new girlfriend, or even if he doesn’t have a new girlfriend. One great resource that I recommend is the Magic of Making Up website – there’s a free video there that can get you started on this whole journey. I recommend that you check it out.
But I recommend most of all that you don’t give up…keep fighting the good fight! :)